Lifestyle Terminology

The Terminology of Sex

In the last 11 years of running adult websites I have noticed that many people do not understand what a lot of the acronyms (abbreviations) used in adult chat rooms mean.

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AC/DC
Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.
ADULT
Euphemism for pornographic.
ANAL
Anal intercourse; Greek; Greek Culture.
ARTS
Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures
B&D
Bondage and discipline (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
BBW
Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their ideal weight, but are still very attractive.
BEAR
A large male homo sexual, often very hairy.
BI
Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)
BI-CURIOUS
A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
BIZARRE
Unusual sexual desires
BONDAGE
A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. the person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."
BOTTOM
Male partner who receives in a homosexual relationship.
BUKAKKE
A fetish where a girl, or girls, occasionally a guy, lies naked and lets, or helps guys masturbate and ejaculate over their naked bodies.
BULL
Male who is used by couples to impregnate the female
CAN ACCOMMODATE
Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for sex and fun.
CAN TRAVEL
Advertiser willing to travel to your home for sex.
CANING
A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
CHEATING
Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.
CLEAN
Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.
CLOSED DOOR or CLOSED SWINGING
Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partners of a marriage or other intimate relationship do not visually observe each other's swinging. the rooms are almost ways in the same house/hotel.
CULTURE
Euphemism for Fetish, Arts.
FRENCH CULTURE:
Oral sex
GREEK CULTURE:
Anal sex
ROMAN CULTURE:
Sexual orgies
SWEDISH CULTURE:
Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another
CUNNILINGUS
Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)
DILDO
An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and or the anus.
DIRECTOR
the term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
DISCIPLINE
A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
DISCREET OR DISCRETION.
Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity
DOCILE
Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
DOMESTIC TRAINING
Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
DOMINANT
A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
EXHIBITIONIST
A person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing sexual portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts.
FELLATIO
Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
FETISH
Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.
FLAGELLATION
Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking
FUN AND GAMES
Euphemism for sexual activity.
GAY
A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
GBM
Gay Black Male
GENEROUS
Refers to money for sex.
GROUP ROOM
Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
GROUP SEX
Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
GWM
Gay White Male
HARD CORE
A party where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
HEAD
Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head"
HEDONIST
Someone who lives for pleasure.
HETEROSEXUAL
Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
HOMOSEXUAL
Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)
HORNY.
Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure
HUNG
Refers to a man with a large penis.
HWP
Height-weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
INDOOR SPORTS
Sexual activities in general.
INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP
Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.
IRL
In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat
ISO
In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female
Leather
A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments.
LESBIAN
A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY)
Ltr
Long Term Relationship
MARITAL AIDS
Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
MASOCHISM
Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
MASTER/SLAVE
Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
MATROOM
Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
MEET FOR PLEASURE
Will meet for sex; no pretence for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity
MORESOMES
More than three people in a sexual interaction.
MBC
Married Black Couple
MBiC
Married Bisexual Couple
MWC
Married White Couple
NEWCOMERS
New people in the scene; First-timers
NONSMOKER
Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.
N.S.A.
No Strings attached.
ORGY
Sexual interaction among several men and/or women in the same room; group sex.
PARTY
Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for NSA sex.
PASSIVE
Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
PHOTO
Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.
PHOTOGRAPHY
Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
PRO
Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
RESTRAINT
Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
ROMAN
Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see CULTURE, ROMAN)
RUBBER
Condom means of contraception;
sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with BDSM.
SAFE
Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy.
S.A.E.
Self-addressed stamped envelope.
SBF
Single Black Female
SBiF
Single Bisexual Female
SBM
Single Black Male
S&M
Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).
SINGLE
A player without a partner, single or married.
SRS
Same Room Sex.
Std
Sexually transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. these social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
Str or Str8 or STRAIGHT
Any person who is not interested in same sex sexual activity or A person who does not use drugs.
SWAPPING
Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
SWF
Single White Female
SWINGING MARRIAGE
Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
SWM
Single White Male
SUBMISSIVE
(see PASSIVE)
THREESOME
three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Not the same as a "menage a" trois" in that the latter may involve emotional involvement and a continuing relationship.
TOP
Dominant partner in a male male homosexual relationship.
TOYS
Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)
TRAVEL
(see CAN TRAVEL)
TRIAD
Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
TRIOLISM
Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". this is a common but confusing usage (see trIAD)
TUBAL LIGATION
Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.
TWINK
Young, attractive male homosexual
UTOPIAN SWINGER
A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
VASECTOMY
Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to make a man infertile.
VERSATILE
Bisexual. (see AC/DC)
VIBRATOR
Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
VOLUPTUOUS
Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
VOYEUR
A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
VWE
Very Well Endowed - a very large male organ.
W/E
Well Endowed - applies to the male organ - the average size is about 6" long and about 5" in girth when erect. W/E is anything greater than this.